I am a woman. I once had a wonderful professor I held a highest esteem of that told me I should look into furthering my studies in the field of philosophy. I loved, inhaled, and exhaled philosophy. He admitted it was a bit of a boy’s club, traditionally, but he (yes, a man, a very good man) invited me to a higher place in myself having said this to me. I appreciated it—a lot. When commenting on her book, “In a Different Voice”, Carol Gilligan said: “The interesting thing about gender is that it’s binary and that there’s a hierarchy. Gender opened a window into seeing something that was right before our eyes that we hadn’t seen.” Psychologists didn’t study women? Were we, are we “too social and too emotional”…and did men actually think we couldn’t be rational due to this? How can we know this to be factual? Psychologists have studied children for as long as the profession has been scribing in books. Is she saying that psychologists didn’t study female children? I understand that decades ago, men led the helm of the ship in most waters.
I believe—in an unpopular view—that men have never been against women having a voice. I believe that women just needed to believe in themselves more to join the party. Why can’t we as women show that we are rational, that we accept the way things were and that we are here now with another voice to add to the conversation? I find men social and emotional. Perhaps each gender has its own fingerprint, its own signature with being each social, emotional, and rational. Perhaps the hues are born from the same colors, and we can begin to study, appreciate, and begin to decipher between the gender hues of purple instead of claiming that only women or men boast purple? We all know that men and women are different. Some say, if you are born into this life as a female, you are majoring in feminine, minoring in masculine, and vise versa.
I am not a proponent of separating the masculine and feminine or in claiming victimhood for some retained voice. I was raised in a household where the masculine and feminine each had, held, and used a voice, and each was heard and appreciated. I just cannot in good conscience jump on board with women who are resisting the change of the times—who are not accepting that things change. We must first accept reality, what was and what is. If the moon fights with the sun, what good can come of it?
We know the sun and moon are very different, just like the masculine and feminine, the male and female. The moon doesn’t need to scream like the sun or to be on time like the sun; the moon controls the tides of the oceans. How about we focus upon that and own our voice? Does the sun get upset that the moon is controlling the enormous tides? I believe that the modern woman is not progressive if she does not celebrate the masculine while learning of and then owning her own power. True power needs no defense. It merely is. In our society, when the moon (feminine) stops trying to be the sun (masculine) and is just proud of being the moon in all of her glory and true power, this is a society that will do wonderful things. We don’t need two suns; one is plenty.
These are my thoughts... my unabashed reeling "feminine" thoughts. :-)